Ellene Lammers, LCSW
Discernment Counselor, Collaborative Divorce Coach, and Divorce Mediator
Frequently Asked Questions
How will I know if these services are right for me?
Divorce is one of the most challenging times in an individual's life. Discernment Counseling can help determine if this decision is right for you. Divorce coaching and mediation are not processes for those who are unsure about getting divorced. Collaborative divorce coaching and divorce mediation offer a means of resolving divorce-related disputes in a more cooperative way.
What is discernment counseling?
Discernment counseling is a process for couples to decide if they want to work more intensively on their marriage or if they believe divorce is the best option for them. Discernment counseling is very time-limited (1-5 sessions). With the guidance and support of the discernment counselor, each individual will examine his/her own behavior and contributions to the current state of the marriage. Only after looking more deeply inside, can each individual determine which path to take: remain with the status quo, intensively work on the marriage for six months in marriage therapy, or pursue a divorce.
What is collaborative divorce?
Collaborative divorce is a team approach to the divorce process. Couples who choose this approach experience much less conflict and a quicker resolution to their divorce. Each individual employs his/her own attorney to address the legal matters. In addition, each individual employs a divorce coach. The coaching process seeks to help people cope more constructively and effectively with their feelings concerning the divorce. It is a future-focused process that is most concerned with what is in the best interests of any children.
What is divorce mediation?
Mediation is another approach to divorce which is future-focused. During divorce mediation, the mediator works with the couple to create an agreement that both feel comfortable will work for them. Mediation is similar to collaborative divorce in that it is quicker and less contentious than litigation. The mediator merely helps with the process and does not suggest or encourage any particular solutions. It is up to the divorcing couple to decide. Similar to collaborative divorce, it is future-focused with special emphasis on what is in the best interests of any children.
How do I get started?
Contact or email Ellene Lammers for a free consultation to determine the best course of action for you.
Where can I find more information?
For more information about Discernment Counseling, click here.
For more information about the Mediation Council of Illinois, click here.
For more information about the International Association of Collaborative Professionals, click here.
For more information about the Collaborative Divorce Illinois, click here.